How about doing your own science study, like in a library? Or like reading a book that can help you in life? this is a relative term to what my parents do for me, sorry if it is irritating.
I want to hear it, I like helping when I can.
What Ava said.
Well, if people that are friends don’t want to hear their friends grief, what kind of friends are they? their not.
This is something I tell myself a lot:
every moment that is lived, is a moment you can never get back. How much of yours was worth it?
I remember the time when my grand dad was still alive (my dad’s dad) my dad would always make us sit with him. We always have to make the time to be in the same room with him, make sure we are in that room for at least an hour, even if he is asleep. And if we don’t, we would get a hidding (in other words, smacked here and there not a big deal, not abuse, just discipline punishment) did not really enjoyed it that much, but it was moments that did not really regret.
When the passing of my grand dad came, it was a pain, but I decided if I could do a speech for my grand dad. I still have it and this is what I said (warning, I was younger then so it may sound funny, at least it does to me now:
My grandpa was very brave, nice and loving.
I remember when I was 12, I was hitting the hazel nuts off the tree and grandpa Harry came and saw me. He was not happy and said " stop hitting the tree ". How would you feel if I hit you with a stick? I thought he meant he was going to hit me with a stick so I went at the other side of the house and started crying. Aunty Sonja went out of the back door and asked me what was wrong and I told her the whole story.Then she told Grandpa to say sorry to me and we both sorted it out. And believe me I never did that again.
When I was 13 Shantay and I used to clime on the plum tree at the back of the house and pick its fruits. When I came inside grandpa Harry kept on telling me to stop climbing on because I might break it or I might fall off. I didn't listen to him and three days later when Shantay and I were climbing the tree the hole tree fell down. After a few minutes everyone was at the back and I could see Grandpa Harry telling uncle to give me and Shantay a hiding.
Last year when my family were in Palmerston North, at MetLife I would try to spend time with grandpa by watching TV with him. Sometimes he would tell me to massage his feet and when he fell asleep I would try to stealth mode my way out of the room but he would wake up and I ended up watching more TV with him until I could get away with it.
But sometimes when I would forget to spend time with grandpa Harry, my number one hero, my dad, would always remind me with his spoon of pain. In Isaiah 25:8 it says, 'He will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove his people’s disgrace from all the earth. The LORD has spoken."
I miss you grandpa Harry and May you spend an eternity in heaven. Thank you for listing.
I got laughed at, but it was a nice laugh. I may not be able to speak to him again in this life, my dad still struggles with it even thou it has been years. But the thing is that it will always be in your head. Nothing can change the fact that your grandmother is no longer with you, but you do have the power on how you can react to it, along with your sisters. Instead to compressing your grief, display it into a form that would have a positive impact for the people around you that you still have. People may not live forever, but that is the point of time. People are not truly thankful for what they have, until they know what it is like not to have it at all, or anymore. Pain and grief comes to all of us, but we decide what we do with it.
I remember this time at school, me and my sister were still struggling with the death of our grand dad, but we still have to go to school. It was Olympic week, and my class had to do a 100 meter sprint. I was still struggling at the inside, but I was thinking in my head ‘Grandpa Harry, I’m running this race for you, I’m running for you. And when the teacher said for us to go, I sprinted so hard that I came first, and that I beaten my personal time record and I was happy. My not be really helpful for you, but being able to Chanel what you are feeling into something that can work for you not against will be something really good to have in life. My other grand dad is still alive, but may be for not much longe, but all I can do for now, is just visit when I can, when ever I can. I will miss the people I see in my life, including the people on the forms, but if good things lasted forever, we won’t truly be thankful for it because we would just get tired of it and regret. But the things that people have in their lives that are good, and they are tired of it, is only a dream to people who don’t have it, or any more
Just asking, don’t have to answer, what will you do if you could have one more day with her? When you have your answer, do it for everyone that you care for. May be to late for you to do it for her, but the other people you still have in your life, is a form for you can still do for them.
Take care K, you too Eerie and Lila.