I am glad these forums are at this level of honesty.
@Miss_E3 I am very sorry that you had to go through all of that. I hate skirts too, but I’m still a woman in my slacks and jackets.
Recently I had a weird experience in cyber security hackathon with an advisor specifically talking to me since I was just listening and was female. He had it in his head that ladies are afraid to ask questions, which is something that is not characteristic of me at all - I was just multitasking and had no idea what to ask, so I told him that. It is a shame when people make false assumptions about women like that.
I’m still praying for some transgender friends who have yet to come to the Lord. It is devastating what lies Satan tells to degrade women and the even worse lies of the transgender false solution. I’m praying that you will find a good church and woman’s Bible study that will take you in, and a good plastic surgeon, if you want one.
I was also reading something recently that mentioned the “gift of bluntness.” While you may not think of it as a gift, I would like to assure you that it is. It is good for calling out evil and the devil’s lies and injecting truth into the situation. Sometimes people who accuse you of being rude may be liars you have made uncomfortable and it may be a false accusation, and not something you should take to heart.
People who tell the truth, and they say that you are being rude, you can trust their judgment on it. People who lie to you and say that you are being rude when you call them on it, take it with salt. And this is coming from someone that other people have described as blunt.
@Eerie_Coppernight Some folks have tried to diagnose me with Asperger’s too. I don’t think it is as much that I can’t read the room as much as that I am slow - the room comes back to me after I leave the social situation. It takes a while for me to process the room and to figure it out, and sometimes I don’t talk until my brain has done the processing to figure it out. I get uncertain and nervous in unusual social situations when I’m struggling.
I find myself scratching my head after social situations wondering what did they mean? And then trying theories and asking more questions. I always thought this was a standard introvert thing - all that social information coming at us reaches critical mass and then we have to go process it.
In the case of the mentor guy I mentioned above, I was still acquiring a read which was taking me about an hour due to it being a highly unusual room for me, and here’s this guy being rude. I guess pray for me because I’m probably going to have to talk to this advisor next week and display Christlikeness toward him. I have some more questions to ask him, so I will be proving him wrong.