I think it comes out when you start applying it (doing what it says) and start seeing the positive results in your own life. But there’s more than doing, it’s also about seeing. It’s being able to look around at the mad swirl of life and see God in the mess. Because Scripture reveals God’s intention toward redemption, and what he does and does not approve of.
The problem is, God just doesn’t have a relationship to everyone, he has a relationship to Sierepica, and that is different than God’s relationship to Jacoby, because you’re different. You tell me
and that tells me where your relationship to God is. You tell me what your attitude toward God is, this sense of wanting more from Him. You emotionally push yourself when the going gets tough and ask others to help and “make a start” - that is where it has an effect, isn’t it? This is not to knock on your message, merely to explain a point. The point at which the Bible leaps off the page and affects your relationship with God is different for each person.
Which brings me to the point that this question is invalid, but it is an emotional question, not a logical one, so I answered it. Everyone has a relationship to God, from the vilest unbeliever in the darkest jail cell to the Dallas Theological Seminary professor, and reading the Bible or not reading it doesn’t change that fact. You may lose the emotional quality of the relationship through repeated unrepentant sin (and that is what the question reflects, in context) but you will never lose the relationship itself.
Reading the Bible gives you information about how to improve that relationship so you’re not constantly fighting with Him and treating Him quite badly, eyeing him suspiciously and accusing him of wrongdoing like unbelievers are prone to do. You change your relationship (with God’s further assistance from the Holy Spirit) from “violent unbelieving attacker” into something else more loving and considerate to the God who made you, until you realize that you are his Bride, not his opponent, and that being God’s bride (or son, if the gender-flip is rough) is not so bad after all.
And where does the change start? When one starts doing.
Anyway, my prayer life is probably much worse than yours , but I thought I would answer the question. I pray as soon as I read the requests because I know that I’m going to forget as soon as I close the topic. In front of others, I write out and speak-pray these passionate intercessions and when I’m alone I resort to canned phrases like “God, I need help here” and “Thank you, God, for your help” over and over. Someone needs to thwack me over the head with a cold bucket of ice water and tell me to pray more often, because I forget.