This is going through my head. I have to say it.
An oak tree does not become a full grown one in one day, it takes time. We are all still kids here, we are all still learning. God knows that we cannot learn every good thing to do with a limited time frame, it takes time and commitment to do so. If you really love your friend, it will just take time to do so. If your friend really is just using you, maybe it is because you are all that she has got left and she may not know how to be a proper friend just yet. We all mess up at some time in our lives. I don’t know what it is like in your way of being cool, but the thing that I find in the term of being cool is useless. Seriously, I don’t know how to be cool, yet I was in a way disliked at my school for being so. The thing is that, you cannot expect to be a professional at being a child of God with a few years of your life, we can only take the time to be who we were born to be by taking the time and moment to be so one second at a time. I really don’t care on how much we all mess up because we all are doing to fall at sometime in our life. The only thing that really matters is that are you going to get back on your feet and keep running the race that God has set out for all of us. When we fall, God does not go around yelling, kicking us around, telling how much of a disgrace we are to him and force us to feel guilty. He just watches, hoping that we would just take that moment in time to just think about what it is that made us stumble, figure a path to go through it and keep going and to make the choice to fall that way again. We need problems in our lives. How else are we going to learn on what we need to work on if we go around unchallenged. If your friend is struggling and needs your help, be a friend that you hope you had if you were in her shoes. I know that I am telling some that may seem like a waste of time, but giving up on her is the worst thing that someone who has called themselves a friend to that person to do. I almost did that to someone here, believing a lie that I thought was real but is a fake and I crumbled when I found out that I was only lieing to myself. And I was surprised that she had grace and forgave me, and that is a lesson I took into my life and had made me a better man and stronger in my relationship with family and friends.
As for your sister, you two have to have a talk on why you both are upset with each other. Praying for it all to go away will not be the only requirement to make it happen. God does feed the birds, but he does not put the worms in the nests. Me and my sister do have fights, but the worst thing that I can do to her is hurt her physically and if that happens, it will tear me apart from the inside out because I love my sister, she is the only sibling i’ve got. The best thing that we do, is let my parents know, we all meet in the sitting room, we talk on what it is that is making us upset and my parents act as councillors. At the end of the day, we forgive each other and we carry on with life. The only being I can think in the universe that would want something as for relationships with friends and family to crumble away is the devil. He is here to steal, kill and destroy. I hate that the fact that we are believing the lies that he sets before us and that we don’t know wether it is true or not until a term of event comes to pass to prove it. The only thing that we all can do is try. If we do good in what we do the right way, we will be happy. If we mess up in what it is right and we find out how, we will be wiser. Come one, everybody in this world has the ability to make good choices I. Life. I don’t believe that there are good and bad people in this world, only good and bad choices. And the choices we make are the reflections of people we want to be. If we give up on people that gives up on us, we are no better then them because we just made the same choice they made. God commanded us to love each other aa ourselves. As from the time I was offline for 2 months because I wanted to make the change to be a better son, brother and friend, If any On of the people I care about started to treat me like rubbish, trash, a nobody, I wouldn’t care. I would try to find the time to sort it out and if they try to stay away from me, I will not give up on them. Because if I do, that is another victory under the satan’s Belt and he has destroyed another relationship between two people. And I did not tell people they are my friend by mistake. There was a reason that I called them a friend in the first place and it was not by chance. If you want to be a better sister to your sister, and better friend for your friend, a better person to who you want to be, you can only make that journey happen one day at a time. You are not alone in the choices you make. Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your way acknowledge him and he will make your path straight. There is support in who you want to be all around you, all you have to do is seek for it in the right places. You will only find the things that you seek. If you seek for a reason to leave your friend, you will find it. If you find a reason to keep on being angry at your sister, that will happen. Find a time to be angry at yourself, it will come to pass. Instead of finding reasons to leave, find the very thing that is keeping you together and go after it. Let the people you care about know what is happening in your life, the people who know you really well or just talk to the people with the problem you have with directly. They may be feeling the same thing that you are feeling and if they do love you, it will show in time. There is no greater suffering to go through in live then giving up on something that had the chance to come back to life, only to find out that you did not take the stand to do it.
I hope that what is happening in this term of event will bring out something that you won’t forget in a positive perspective in life and that you don’t give up on the people you care about. The one who wants you too fall is the devil. The one who wants you to get back up is God. God never promised us a life without pain, but he does promise us a life worth living. Take care of everyone you know. You never know the time when you will be tested.
May you do what is right according to the bible and have a meaning full life.
Take care, and may you love your friends and family well.