Hi everyone. For us mods, the discussion around whether abuse should be talked about on here boiled down to a few simple things. Before I lay out a few points, I want to preface it by saying that I have personally been through abuse myself, so of all people, I am particularly sympathetic to the perspectives presented here and that has guided the way I approached y’all’s questions.
1) Absolutely, yes, 100% we allow discussions of abuse. Abuse is real, and pretending it doesn’t exist will only cause harm.
2) This is a forum that in name at least is oriented towards younger kids, many of whom may not fully understand and be equipped to process in-depth discussions of abuse, or to react to it maturely. While this obviously does not hold true for most of the people actually here, we’re trying to set a guideline that will be upheld even after this forums generation has moved on. Therefore, avoid overly descriptive language, as much as possible. The best guideline I can give for this is to imagine that you’re talking in front of your 10-year-old cousin.
3) This is a game forum, not a counseling forum. It is a community of believers, but it is not a place to seek professional help. We will always point those suffering from abuse or its effects to people that they can trust in their day-to-day life. This does not mean that abuse victims aren’t welcome here, much the opposite! I would know! However, we’re not equipped to be someone’s entire support system.
We hope these points can serve as guidelines for future discussion, and we hope that these made sense to everyone. As for myself particularly, I also wanted to add that I will never question the validity of anyone’s abuse here. My only concern is how to have appropriate discussions about it.
TLDR: Abuse exists, you can talk about your abuse, don’t get extremely descriptive/in-depth, and please be sure to seek professional help if you need it. We are here to support you.