It has far too many quotes used improperly - I couldn't figure it out.
1. Don't use quotes to needlessly break up your reply.
2. Don't use quotes to post agreement to specific points when you have nothing to add. (If you agree, be silent and use the like button.)
3. Don't use quotes to reply to the post directly above yours, unless you need to home in on a very specific point.
- Do use quotes to signal a change of subject.
- Do use quotes to respond to two different people in the same post.
Do use quotes to respond to a post that is older and when a significant amount of topic usage has elapsed between the post you are replying to and your reply.
If you are writing a long post like me, use quotes. (Preferably biblical ones.) Okay, that last point was a joke. But, @Iliara_Mustardtop, longer with more examples isn't always better.
sips strawberry lemonade Um, I've been on this forum for the past 4 and a half years or so, and no one told me to see a therapist. I don't think this problem is quite worthy of therapy - it's a natural skill set that's a normal part of the human experience. And I have it. I just...don't use it very often. In fact, I would hazard that most folks can enjoy a good debate if they allow themselves to. This is not evil. It is simply a part of enjoying socialization and how God created us differently, with different perspectives on things. Ironically, enjoying a good debate can actually help correct social issues and psychological problems. But some of us need other ways of correcting them because we're bad at debate or don't enjoy it.
It is not a sin to enjoy a good debate. It is, actually, a gift of sorts to be able to. But it is not a license to shove someone into a debate when they don't want to go - that is evil. Consider an ice-skating rink. If I want to go ice-skating with you, then we both go out on the ice and move around, happy and undisturbed. If I don't and you forcefully drag me onto the rink, I'm going to get injured because I slip-slide and painfully crash into the cold ice (ouch). The same is true of debate.
Likewise, believe it or not, as one can enjoy ice skating, one can actually enjoy debating with someone who actually enjoys debating. As long as both parties are comfortable with exploring the difference of opinion and getting to learn more about each other, the dopamine can go higher and higher. You can, in fact, get high off of this thing - push your brain way out. You can see the stars.
(The route there, at least part of it, is mutual trust and respect for the other person combined with laughter at the debate subject. I hasten to add that it's not really a good idea to do this unless you really trust the other person, because when your brain is up on dopamine it doesn't process reality correctly. You would be wise to step away from a debate such as this periodically to allow the brain chemicals to dissipate before continuing. Fortunately, a debate requires using your brain, so when you get too high your performance starts to slip and that can act as a safety limit. But I've never really done this type of debate here much at all nor gone for it at all in years. It's not worth it to me - I value the information I'm conveying to the other person much more than I do an opportunity to laugh. But maybe you view life a little differently.)
I also realize that I'm not doing much to advance my argument that this is okay. It is, if all parties to the debate agree that it's okay. Therefore, it is important to realize that, when you are entering a debate, mutual consent to debate this way needs to be obtained, and your communication needs to be phrased to not make it seem like you're getting jacked on the other person's words (even if you are) until such mutual consent is obtained. You need to find some control over your pleasure chemicals.
The point I'm trying to make is, not everyone enjoys debate, the same way not everyone enjoys ice skating. But some of us do. And if you are enjoying dragging me around an ice skating rink when I clearly don't want to be there, you're going to look like a sadist. Likewise, if you are enjoying the debate and the other person is suffering and miserable and wants to get out, you look like you are enjoying inflicting pain on others. This is not a good appearance, and it is one that is a very hard to escape once it has begun. Swinging a sword into fragile glass souls isn't fun - all they do is shatter and scream.
And honestly, @Mr_F3, I tend to take the topics that people are discussing around here seriously and not laugh at them. These topics strike me as serious business; I can't laugh. Sometimes I think me taking things seriously is a drag on the forum, but yeah. Would you laugh at a bunch of kids or teenagers who are trying to be taken seriously? That strikes me as rather mean.
It's more fun to use the bigger sword, but only if your opponent then draws the bigger sword in return and can get you back. So rest assured, if you actually enjoy inflicting pain on others, including small children, we will be having a very different conversation very soon. I will stand against that, and you will lose.
Last I checked the responsibility for provocation rested on the provoker, not the provokee.